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White Space in Your Design 

White can be a soothing and relaxing color to see. For some people white is simply a refreshing color while for others it is a dull, common color. If you have been in the web business for quite a while you would often hear the word white space. What does this term mean?

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A Guide to Bathroom Remodeling

There is a reason why many Hollywood actors keep their awards in their bathrooms -- all their guests will visit that room at some point, so why not put the trophies were everyone will see them? But even if you haven't won any Academy Awards, your guests will be still checking out you bathroom. A well-done bathroom remodeling can impress your guests and boost the value of your home.

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Home Remodeling Tips 

Maximizing the function and style of your home, could be very challenging. Before you buy, you should know the pros and cons of home remolding. There are several directions you can take when planning to remodel your home.

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How to Avoid Pitfalls of Widowhood and Retirement

In response to an article I wrote about managing the aging process, I received this email: "Barbara, I think you are "right on". When I was teaching high school, I felt young and attractive. Now that I have retired and especially now that I am recently widowed, I feel old, useless, and not wanted.

A widow becomes a fifth wheel: never invited into the circle of friends you had when you were a couple. When going to group dinners, singles are placed at tables off by themselves. I am now dealing with both age and being without the love of my life and escort.

I go to lunch often with other widows (my age).I work in 3 volunteer organizations but all involve old people. Have just finished reading Art Linkletter's book, HOW TO MAKE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE THE BEST OF YOUR LIFE.

Many of his suggestions require money and a companion, neither of which I have. HELP. Any other good suggestions?????" signed "Luann" In summary, Luann's message tells me: 1. She's retired 2. Widowed 3. Lonely 4.

No plans for the future 5. She wants social interaction but not with "old" people 6 .She volunteers but it is not fulfilling 7. She could use more income Remember, Luann said: "When I was teaching high school, I felt young and attractive.

Now that I have retired and especially now that I am recently widowed, I feel old, useless, and not wanted." Undoubtedly, Luann felt young and attractive while working because of association with young and attractive, mentally stimulating co-workers. Their youth and vitality must have helped to nourish and support her perception of her own youth and vitality. Since I don't know why she retired, I can't comment on her decision. But I do know this: Luann could have had an exit strategy for life after retirement. Retirement is particularly difficult for those who enjoy using their intellect.

It's traumatic to stop doing challenging work you've always enjoyed and begin to live life as a mind-numbing pastime. Your self-worth can go down the drain in a hurry. In addition, after the "honeymoon" of not having to respond to a schedule wears off, it can be terribly boring. Luann was not well prepared for her husband's demise.

While he was alive, she did what most women do: she failed to think in terms of what "might happen" to her if her husband dies, and what steps she could take to emotionally survive her loss. Because she relied on a close circle of married friends, after her husband's death she had to deal with the reality of being an "outsider" or as she put it, a "fifth wheel". To prevent being in that situation, while her husband was alive, Luann could have gone back to school, or joined organizations that would have put her in contact with people of different ages and circumstances ? married, divorced, widowed, young, old. It's what all mid-lifers and beyond should be doing: Planning ahead to thrive independently and happily no matter what happens. Had she done such pre-planning, it would have broadened her circle of contacts and friends she could rely on for the social and emotional support she craves.

Because Luann finds it depressing to be around "old" people much of the time, this strategy would have helped her find the diversity of friends she needed when tragedy struck. Someone in this mix of people might even have been a special someone with whom she could later share her unforeseen widowhood. And speaking of finding a new love, Luann should definitely let her friends, married and single, know that she is looking. She should get involved in activities where there is a likelihood of meeting someone suitable.

If she limits socializing to women friends, chances of finding a partner are greatly diminished. What really struck me about Luann's situation is that she doesn't have enough money to do some things she would like to do. I constantly harp about financially strapped retirees volunteering when they should be earning a paycheck, and Luann's situation demonstrates the validity of this position. It makes me crazy when I see retirees, mentally and physically able, financially doing without for lack of satisfying employment that would enhance the quality of life. I encourage you, whatever age you are, to think and plan for the future. It's closer than you think.

You may be comfortable with your current intimate circle of friends, but the more contacts you have, and the greater the variety of people you know will be a security blanket to help cope with loneliness. You don't have to become a "fifth wheel." You don't have to be lonely.

You don't have to do without financially after traditional retirement age if you are mentally and physically competent. But you do have to plan for the kind of life you want after life throws you a curve ball. Looking ahead will help mitigate a huge amount of grief.

Barbara Morris is a pharmacist and author of Put Old on Hold. Visit her web site http://www.PutOldonHold.com and sign up for her newsletter and receive a free copy of the special report, "Twelve Diva Tested Tips For Fabulous Skin."

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